If communication has broken down

Common issues addressed include communication breakdowns, trust issues, intimacy problems, financial disagreements, and major life transitions. The process typically involves learning new conflict resolution skills, understanding each other’s perspectives, and rebuilding emotional connection. Sessions may include exercises, homework assignments, and structured conversations. The goal is to help couples either repair and enhance their relationship or reach an amicable decision about separation.

What does a couple’s counselling session look like?

Initial Setup and Ground Rules

The therapist usually begins by establishing ground rules for respectful communication, ensuring both partners feel heard, and creating a non-judgmental environment. Sessions typically last 50-90 minutes and happen weekly or biweekly.

Assessment and Goal Setting

Early sessions often involve the therapist learning about your relationship history, current challenges, and what each partner hopes to achieve. You may discuss communication patterns, areas of conflict, and relationship strengths.

Guided Communication

Much of the session involves facilitated conversations where the therapist helps partners express their feelings and needs more effectively. They might interrupt negative patterns like interrupting, defensiveness, or criticism, and guide you toward more constructive dialogue.

Skill Building

Therapists often teach specific techniques, such as active listening, “I” statements, conflict resolution strategies, or emotional regulation skills. You might practice these during the session.

Homework and Practice

Sessions frequently end with assignments or exercises to practice between meetings, such as scheduled check-ins, specific communication techniques, or relationship-building activities.

Processing and Reflection

The therapist helps both partners understand underlying emotions, recognise patterns, and gain insight into how their individual backgrounds affect the relationship.

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